Thanksgiving Traditions as a Grown-Up with Kids

 Thanksgiving Traditions as a Grown-Up with Kids

As a grown-up with kids, I've found that our Thanksgiving traditions have evolved significantly since the early years of our marriage. Initially, we celebrated with both families, juggling two Thanksgiving dinners—one with Evan's family and another with mine. It worked seamlessly at first, with Evan's family usually hosting an early dinner and mine a bit later. However, as our kids grew, we realized that double the food and festivities were too much for them, leading us to a new tradition: alternating years with each family.

In odd years, we gather at my mom's house, where our Thanksgiving celebration begins bright and early at my parents house for breakfast. While Evan and the boys head out for their annual hunting trip with his dad.  It's a time-honored tradition. Before breakfast someone always makes a quick trip to the store to grab a newspaper filled with Thanksgiving ads. We spread the ads all over the floor, with kids and moms eagerly discussing the deals and making plans for our holiday shopping the next day.

After breakfast, we head home for a post-meal nap—a necessary break before the day’s main event. Once refreshed, each sister has her assigned dish to prepare. In previous years, we’d gathered around a massive table, but as our family has grown—now 12 adults and 18 grandchildren—we’ve adapted. We now have a designated adults' table and a kids' table, which adds a fun dynamic to our gatherings.

The atmosphere is filled with lively conversation and laughter. It’s amazing how quickly the day of cooking passes; before we know it, we’re all sitting down together. After dinner, we keep the holiday spirit alive with our cousin and sibling Christmas gift exchange. Earlier in the year, we draw names to determine who will gift whom, and the grandkids gather in a big circle to exchange presents while reveling in each other’s joy. The siblings follow suit, sharing gifts and laughter. 

On even years, our Thanksgiving is a quieter affair with just Evan's parents. It’s a refreshing change of pace, filled with relaxation and intimacy. Once again, Evan the boys, and his dad head out hunting in the morning, while I help set the stage for a cozy family dinner. Depending on the year, we switch houses for the dinner, and Evan's family usually takes the reins on cooking. When it's our turn to host, I dive into preparing the meal—smoked turkey, stuffing, mashed potatoes, green beans, cranberry sauce, and fresh rolls.

The kids love getting involved, helping to set the table and create nameplates for each guest, adding a personal touch to our dinner. When the food is ready, we gather around the table, enjoying a meal that feels both special and comforting. After dinner, we migrate to the living room, often putting on a movie and enjoying dessert together, creating a relaxing end to the day.

At Evan's parents' house, the atmosphere is just as cozy, with Carol doing the cooking and a warm fire crackling in the background. The simplicity of these gatherings allows us to cherish the quieter moments and strengthen our bonds as a family.

Thanksgiving as a grown-up with kids has transformed from chaotic double dinners to meaningful, cherished traditions with our loved ones. Whether it’s the lively atmosphere of my family’s celebration or the peaceful comfort of Evan’s family gatherings, each year brings its own joys and memories. As we continue to celebrate this holiday, we find new ways to connect, share, and give thanks for all the blessings in our lives.